Change begins the day you change your mindset

Image of tunnel into darkness

Imagine This

  • Imagine you are traveling along on a journey, and you reach a long and dark tunnel. It is pitch black with no light on the other side. You look to your left and to your right, but there is no way around, and you cannot turn around and go back the way you came. So you are standing at the opening of this tunnel, staring into darkness. The tunnel looks scary and sketchy, and you feel uneasy. Fear and anxiety kick in, and you’re second guessing if you should walk through it, questioning if you will make it to the other side and maybe wishing you had someone or something with you to protect you.

    Sometimes life feels the same way. It may feel scary, there may be uncertain moments, and we may have walk through it alone, but we must remember life is a journey. When you go through something, always remember the word “through”; it means to travel in one side of something and out the other. Though it looks scary, this tunnel has an exit and walking through it is only part of your journey. 

    If you could take something with you, such as a flashlight, it might be helpful to shine light on the scary, sketchy, and uneasy things you THINK you may discover. Worthy Reminders is your flashlight and will help you shine light on self-inflicting obstacles we make up in our mind. We sometimes blame ourselves, have self-pity, and feel unworthy when we should stop, think, reevaluate, and change our perspective. 

    Be courageous, take the first step into the tunnel and keep walking until you walk out the other side. I am hoping Worthy Reminders will provoke healthy conversations with self, change your habits, change your perspective, and organize your health and wellness activities to help you make an effort to find comfort and confidence traveling your journey.

    Take accountability for what you CAN change about your journey.

My Story

At an early age I experienced trauma for the first time. During that time, I started to feel unworthy and acting out. In my adolescent and teenage years I was insecure and had low self-esteem. So, I created a false identity and became a person I thought the world wanted to see. Over the years, I battled with this false person and the person I was on the inside, too afraid to live in my truth. I spent time and money working with several therapist, and did a lot of reflecting in my diaries, but nothing seemed to work.

I only learned how to suppress my feelings and cope with situations that were foreign to the person I felt on the inside. It was unhealthy to live this way, to never live in your true identity, to accept things that you were truly uncomfortable with, and still very insecure. This identity plagued me for years and made it hard to unlearn the survival skills I had taught myself at such an early age.

I was inspired to start Worthy Reminders after realizing I am the only person that can make my life the way I see it in my dreams. I no longer wanted to keep up with this false identity or be the victim in my story and decided I will be the victor. I needed to get back to me, the person I felt on the inside, and learn to love that person.

I decided to refocus and accept the things that have transpired in my life, let go of the negative thoughts I had about my self and self worth, and decided I wanted to move on from the past for good this time.

I started telling myself I was worthy of having the things I wanted in life even getting 'Worthy' tattooed on my arm to remind me that I am worth it! At that point I chose to be intentional about exercising healthy habits not only mentally but physically. I started to incorporate self-care days, solo dates and travel, self-reflection, and invested in a new therapist for self evaluation.

I realized I had to implement this new strategy, so I created Worthy Reminders to help me think objectively, to think past my negative thoughts, intentionally set goals, remind myself that I am worthy and gain a new perspective about where life was taking me.

After all, the first step is accepting that you cannot change what you go through, but you can always change how you feel about your journey and the strength you gain while traveling it.

I hope Worthy Reminders is a resource to help remind you that you are worthy, you matter, and you can have all the desires of your heart, you just might have to travel a journey to get there. Long or short, with time and intention you will get there.

Start Your Healing

  • Accept the things you cannot change about your journey. Let go of situations you have no control over and try not to stress over another persons actions, a diagnosis, or unfortunate situations.

    Accept it. Grieve it. Let it go.

  • You must take accountability for the role you play in the mental health and wellness of your journey. Take a second and realize you CAN change your perspective about your journey. Be intentional about making those changes by using the Journey Journal to exercise healthier mental and wellness habits.

  • TAKE ACTION! Implement a new plan and strategy to exercise healthier mental health and wellness habits. Throw away the baggage by deconstructing the unworthiness. Use the Journey Journal as a daily log of your intention, progress and completion of the goals along your journey.

Start a new relationship with yourself today.